How to Completely Change Your Viewpoint about Grief:
Win the Battles and the War
December 1, 1994. On this day, my mother passed away. She overdosed on her own prescription of psychotropic medications for depression. Ever since 1994, I have been plagued by a yearly shift of emotions that occur from October 31 (her birthday) until the 2nd week of January (right after the holiday season).
Only about 3 years ago, did I come to the realization that during those three months every year, I was experiencing grief. During those 3 months, since 1994, I will lose my energy for life. I do not want to be around or socialize with others. I feel drained for 3 whole months. I lose interest in my daily activities and holiday cheer. I undergo a unique expression of my grief.
Grief does not feel, look or unfold the same way for everyone. Grief does not have the same set schedule or duration for everyone. Your distinct personality, experiences and lifestyle has a huge impact on your cycle of grieving. Be comfortable in your unique way to express grief.
Managing grief after the loss of a loved one is an ongoing struggle. Grief becomes part of your lifestyle and sometimes daily living. Grief will not disappear but symptoms can feel seamlessly nonexistent if managed effectively. Management takes valuable time and active effort.
Action Step #1:
Take care of yourself. Now that your loved one is no longer here, self- care is of the utmost importance. Other family members and loved ones are still here so being in the best of health is important. Emotional and physical health enables you to be a support system for them just as much as you need support from them.
Action Step #2:
Be aware of your feelings. Know what triggers your grief. Just because your expression of feelings is not the same as someone else’s does not make it unusual. For example, I only grieve 3 months out of the year. Does that make my grieving process abnormal? Absolutely not! During those months, I implement the coping strategies that are effective for ME!
It is acceptable to loss some battles on your way to war when handling grief. When symptoms such as guilt, fatigue, heaviness or depression strike, it is okay to take a day away from the world. It is okay to cry unexpectedly sometimes. It is okay to constantly think of the loved one you miss. Those occurrences are normal during the battles with grief. But pick yourself back up. Use coping strategies, support systems and professional counseling to overcome grief. Maintain and manage your strength to win the war.
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