Overzealous expectations can cause unwarranted anxiety and disappointment. You need to set your expectations based on your current and desired lifestyle, and the resources you can and are willing to access. Most importantly, there is not an exact formula for arranging expectations. You are unique, and your action rhythms cannot be determined by anyone other than yourself.
Determine if your expectations are right for you.
Thinking Point #1: What are your strengths & weaknesses?
Create a T- chart that lists your strengths on one side and your weaknesses on the other side. Your strengths will drive your expectations. Stick to what you are good at, and your expectations will be fulfilled.
On the other hand, you can also use your weaknesses to drive your expectations. So, you are wondering how can weaknesses be good. Well, here’s how! First, your weaknesses can direct your focus on areas to improve which means you expect to be a better you. Secondly, weaknesses can be overcome by your strengths and in turn signifies you can expect no less than the best outcome.
Thinking Point #2: What are your values and beliefs?
Belief systems are instrumental to determining your expectations. For example, if you believe that only men can perform certain duties, you will believe you can or cannot do those same tasks depending on if you are male or female. Have an all- inclusive, unbiased belief system so that you can strive to achieve whatever you desire.
Place high value on rules, cultures, attitudes, etc. to determine the type of lifestyle you expect to lead. Be open, fair and respectful to all aspects of how a lifestyle of value should be lived. The higher your values are towards understanding, empathy and quality; the closer your expectations will be to success.
Thinking Point #3: What does the world need from you?
If you want bigger expectations, expand your reach. Most people only focus on including close family and friends when setting expectations. Family and friends cover only a small perimeter of the universe that you can make a difference in. In order for your high expectations to be fulfilled, you must have a greater mission of reaching a larger mass of the population. Successful expectations are connected to the purpose you have in life, and those you serve with your purpose.
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