MANY MEN:Touch me here, Touch me thereThe ABUSER>>>Domestic violence occurs in relationships for two main reasons. One reason involves a distorted perception of self. The abuser possesses a negative self- image which seeps over into the thoughts possessed about the partner. Additionally, the abuser carries false perceptions of relationship dynamics. The abuser does not know what an ideal partnership of respect entails. The cocktail of these two factors open the gateway to harmful intimate

Many Men:The Remote Controller The Controlling Man There is a thin line between love and control. Does he constantly tell you when and how to do something, and accredits it to being concerned about you? During a girl’s night out, he calls you several times or wants you to call several times to check in, and claims he wants you to be safe? Is your wardrobe selection a reflection of his taste instead of your own because he picks and chooses the clothes he thinks is best for you? After a hard day

Many Men!I Need Love!The WomanizerHe is the man who thinks every woman wants him, and he can get any woman he wants. He usually does get who he wants. Ladies there is a price to be paid and sacrifices to be made. he knows how to play the game. It was the summer of 1993. I looked out of my apartment door and there he was. Chocolate brown, big smile and sexy triceps were cruising in a white convertible with the top down. I made an internal note that he would be mines. Within a few months, we had

The Real Ugly Duckling I remember a story my mother, Minnie Lee, loved to tell about herself as a child. She would reminisce about when she was a teenager and none of the boys liked her. They would call her “ugly”. In the mist of the story, her face would light up. She would then proudly say, “Now all of the same boys want to get with me. The ugly duckling has turned into a swan.” And I would laugh along with her because she indeed had become a beautiful woman. A beautiful woman who on December

Life flows in a fluid motion. There is no fixed, clear cut pattern to reach the goals and lifestyle desired. Sometimes life feels broken. Other times our actions result in feelings of wholeness. Everyone’s ultimate aim is total blissful happiness. According to Lifehack’s author Amy Johnson, in a survey 56% of the people say they are happy. But is it safe to say that most people who are happy also use proper strategies and techniques to overcome what is broken.Broken: My world is falling

How to Completely Change Your Viewpoint about Grief:Win the Battles and the WarDecember 1, 1994. On this day, my mother passed away. She overdosed on her own prescription of psychotropic medications for depression. Ever since 1994, I have been plagued by a yearly shift of emotions that occur from October 31 (her birthday) until the 2nd week of January (right after the holiday season). Only about 3 years ago, did I come to the realization that during those three months every year, I was